These online dating tips are about getting the main aspects of your online dating profile right. This is the first of a series of five articles, each concentrating on a specific aspect of a lady's online dating profile.
Why bother, you say?
The benefit is that you clearly describe who you are and the type of guy you are looking for. Thereby you immediately cut out all the people who would be of no interest to you (and you to them, even before you start writing your profile summary paragraph). This reduces hassle and emotional toll. You are investing in your future, so it pays to devote time to the task.
This first tip is about your 'handle', usually known as your User ID. Once you choose it, you cannot change it on a site.
Perhaps you have already joined an online agency. Did you choose a memorable and intriguing 'handle' for yourself?
Think about these handles:
Put yourself in a guy's position - he does a search and sees a list of potential matches like this:
Ann123
Babs49
Charlotte_virginia
Mustang_Sally
ToniLonely
MarybyMoonlight
Maggie_May69
SaraSculptress
BlondeNoBimbo
Wendy99
June_so_lonely
Just_looking49
Laughing_Lady27
ScarlettOHara
Which handles catch his eye? Which ones will he click on first? Which ones grab you? Which ones give a positive feel and which ones seem negative?
Obviously, if your style is not that of a Mustang, or humour and double entendres such as with Maggie_May69 do not suit your personality then avoid such terms (or be prepared to deal with the inevitable silly enquiries you will get). However, you can always find something that very simply generates the extra clicks on your profile. More clicks mean more chances to find the right person.
It is quite reasonable to assume that SaraSculptress would really like to meet someone interested in the Arts, ideally interested in sculpture.
'Mustang_Sally' tells me that she is someone who is a bit headstrong and challenging, but recognises it.
BlondeNoBimbo suggests an attractive lady who wants to be recognised for her intelligence and her looks. Of course, if you are a 'stunning looker' with the intelligence of a professor, then you may want to put that across that another way, such as 'BookishBlonde' or maybe just avoid any reference to your hair colour or looks. But then, it pays to advertise!
Now, let us think about negative aspects. How do you think June_so_Lonely comes across? There are two aspects to this.
Firstly, it carries a sense of vulnerability about it. This may not be a good thing to put across, as not all men are honorable. Secondly, it conveys someone who is seeing her glass to be half empty. Some men may like that, some may not, but generally a positive attitude works best.
And lastly, what does ScarlettOHara's handle say - is she literary or a film buff or does it say something about her character. Some doubt can be intriguing...
So, to sum up, think about your handle. Many sites offer free trial memberships, so you could join a couple of agencies and try a couple of different handles.
Remember, your handle is the leadin to your headline - more about that in the next article!
(c) 2010 Phil Marks
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